Inspiration from Mentor Shari Sunshine
So many times I have heard the wisdom that everyone wishes to be happy. I do believe that everyone has the wish to be happy. We wish we would never be in pain or have sorrow. If I really look around, I can see that in one way or another, every person I have ever known has had the experience of pain or sorrow, or both. These manifestations of pain are different depending on the person, but I really can’t think of a single person that has not experienced pain or suffering.
I don’t write this to bring anyone more pain, but to recognize this truth and to work with it in myself. What can I do with the pain and suffering I experience? How can I help another to be happy? What can I do to help people everywhere in the world to be happy and free from suffering? It seems an impossible task. I tell myself that I alone can really do very little to alleviate the pain and suffering in the world. Maybe I can help one person at a time a little bit, for a short period of time, but can I really be affective to help the billions of people who suffer?
I think I would like to start with something that I experience often in the work I do. Sometimes, well maybe fairly often, when someone comes to me for healing work, they might say that they “know” they should be doing something different than they are doing to help themselves feel better, to be more healthy. They are just not doing it…yet. As an example, someone might say, “I used to walk every day for 30 minutes to an hour and then I hurt my foot and I had to stop. Now I know I should go back to walking, but I just haven’t done it. I know I would feel better, but I just don’t seem to get my shoes on and go out the door.”
We all know there are things we could be doing to improve our lives, but we are not navigating ourselves within our own minds. We have an intention, but we are not putting that intention into action. I am very curious to know why this happens. Sometimes we blame ourselves, creating further problems in our mind. Maybe it would help to have open ended curiosity to know rather than to blame anything at all, ourselves, our neighbor’s dog, whatever we blame that gives us some reason not to do what we know would be good to do for ourselves.
There is some confusion here. We don’t seem to know our own True Nature, that at the deepest level, we have the basic capacity to take very good care of our body and our mind. The confusion puts a fog between what we know deep down to be a good thing and what we are actually doing. We just keep going down the same rut over and over even though that rut is not helping us improve our state of being. This is a very common cause of suffering.
The sense of wellbeing has to be self-realized from within, brought forth from doing things differently, not following the habitual rut. We have to activate, sometimes with some effort, the “self” that is the agent of wisdom. To overcome our self-created ruts may take some force at first, the old brain pathways have to go. We have to call forth the “self” that has been in the background, underlying until this moment. We could call this “will power” or the part of oneself that is sympathetic to our need to be free from the suffering, in ourselves and in others. This true, knowing, wise self is just waiting for us to activate it, to ask it to come forward and lead us to do what we know we need to do to be happy and healthy.
I invite everyone who reads this to take a few minutes to contemplate our own built-in tenderness toward others and ourselves. We all have a tender heart with tender feelings. A love of life. There is a power that we can access with thoughts of care, wishes from our tender heart. The wish for ourselves and all living beings to be free from suffering comes from the same raw material, the source of compassion. Let your heart be charged with the electricity of compassion, not only for yourself, but for all beings everywhere. Let this energy of self compassion, unconditional love, be the force that motivates you to put on your shoes and go for that walk, start eating what you know will nourish your body, drink lots of water, sleep at least 8 hours a night, and spending some quiet, alone time to contemplate what the real causes of happiness are, what it really means to be kind and tender with oneself and with others. Begin to walk on a clear, new path to Happiness.
May all beings be Happy and have all of the causes of Happiness. If we wish this for all beings, it increases the power of the wish many billion times.